Overcome Obstacles video 4 loss

Loss, I think has to be one of the hardest things I’ve had to go through.

I have been through this way to many times with all my furry baby’s who have come and gone over the years, and yes they were all difficult experiences. When I lost our baby it was extremely difficult, even though I was only a few months pregnant. I made the mistake of taking it personally and blamed myself.

I dont think it really matters though what the loss is it still affects us in some way and we find ourselves regretting and wishing we had more time, had done better at something, or said something differently, so that we wouldnt have to feel this pain.

Emotionally It’s very much like a roller coaster going up and down, sometimes the pain is unbearable and other times its tolerable, and then the pain hits again, up and down, over and over. It isn’t easy, we miss them, we wish they were here with us, we wish we could have then in our life still.

We are never really sure how to move forward, we aren’t sure how we are going to be in this life with out them. We see something that reminds us of them and we get sad, we think of something that reminds us of them and we get sad, we just feel like we will be sad and missing them forever. Missing them, always wishing they were with us, this is all part of the grieving process, it’s okay, accept this fact. Allow yourself to feel this, allow yourself to go through this…

Soon you will start to remember the good, and with a smile and a light in your heart you will remember all the amazing things they brought into your life, forgive yourself and allow yourself to feel the love you have for them.

It doesn’t mean you won’t miss them and feel sad now and then but then you will remember the impact they had in your life and you will smile with the joy that this gives you.

It’s difficult to lose someone we love so much, whether they were here for a minute, a year or a life time. We loved, we shared, we cared…

Allow yourself to go through this in love and acceptance that you will be okay and the love you have for then and the love they have for you will carry you.

Be okay with you and what you are going through, you can do it.

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Overcome Obstacles Video 3 Depression

I was in my 20’s when I first went through a really scary time with depression, I was out of control, I was scared, I cried, I hid, I didn’t answer the phone, I thought about and talked about dying all the time, I had lost hope and faith. The only thing that kept me around were my kids, I loved them more then anything and was so worried about what would happen to them if I was not here to help them.

I didn’t feel there was anyone I could talk to and so I didn’t make in effort in that regard, I would play games with my kids like scream into pillows, and hid from visitors or anyone who showed up at our door even if it was family and friends, and play ignore the phone if anyone called. They were so little and thought it was just a game.

I remember one night laying in bed with all my babies snuggled in around me. I was thinking how grateful I was for all of them and as I snuggled them closer i could feel the anxiety become less and as I closed my eyes I felt a bet of relief. That was the turning point. The next few mornings it was like the sun had finally come out and I was feeling so much better. It did take a little time but bit by bit i felt better, the more i focused on my love for my children and less on my worries and fears, the better my spirits were. I felt relief, I felt happy, I felt love, I felt free.

I was told by my doctor I was manic depressant and I would have to be on medication for the rest of my life. If you know me personally then you know how much I loathe having to take medication. I can’t stand medication and I did not like the thought of taking it for eternity at all. I chose to be drug free, I chose to figure out a different way to heal me. It doesn’t mean I pulled a switch and I was my happy positive, and full of life self, no I still slipped, fell back, and would remember this isn’t who I wanted to be, so I got back up and continued moving forward.

Being grateful helps you remember how truly lucky we are to live in this amazing gift we are given called life. When we learn that we are only a gratitude away from seeing the light again is when we will start to no longer see the darkness.

You are the light you seek, look inside to find it. It comes from you.

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Overcome Obstacles Video 2 Physical Disabilities

When I was in high school I started to have severe back pain. No I had not fallen, nor was I hit by anything. In actuality there was no cause for it at all it just came on all of a sudden. So much pain, even walking was a lot of work. I couldn’t run, jump, climb, or do any sport, even stretching hurt.

I went to doctor appointment after doctor appointment, I saw doctor after doctor, they took X-rays, ran tests, and I spent time a great deal of time in the hospital. They told me to wear special shoes, or at least insoles, to help with my condition. They said one leg was longer then the other, they said my one hip was higher then the other, and finally they told me I had scoliosis and would need a pole in my spin. I was 15 years old and my thoughts after hearing this was that the chances of me having a normal life after that would be slim. What about carrying a baby? There’s no way I could see that happening now.

I didn’t go through with the surgery. To me it wasn’t even an option. I hate the idea of medication so I won’t usually use it, this meant the pain continued for many years. Then I started listening instead to me, although I was in alot of pain I still walked everyday, I still went to school walking there and back, I still hiked and did the other outdoor activities that i normally enjoyed. Even though some days the pain was unbearable I still got up in the morning and did whatever I could.

I learned that even though I was in a lot of pain I had a choice, I could cater to the pain or learn to deal with it until I could figure out a better answer. I knew I could not get the pole in my back because it would only hinder me. I learned that doctors do their best but they don’t know everything and we need to go inside and find out what is right for us.

When I was in my 30s I had a major work related injury that left me unable to use my right arm, hand, shoulder and neck. I was in so much pain I remember spending a huge amount of time in bed just sleeping. I hate medication but I especially hate pain medication so I usually was just dealing with the pain. No matter what I tried nothing seemed to work, I had no idea how I was going to get back to where I was prior to the injury. I felt useless…

Doctors, specialist, x-rays and MRI’s and still no answers. So much pain and no answers.

I needed to figure out what I was going to do with me, I needed to learn a new way of doing things, I needed to take responsibility for me. I learned to use my left arm, I learned to do everything with my left and I learned to be okay with the fact that there was going to be pain. I took breaks when needed but slowly I learned I could do anything I really wanted to do, just a little slower and with some pain.

If you are struggling with pain remember that “you” hold the key you are looking for and you can find it in you, trust yourself to know what you need to help you get to where you want to be.

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Overcome Obstacles Video 1 Learning Disabilities

We are more then we think we are, we are more then the difficulties we have to go through. You are capable of doing anything we truly want to do.

I wanted to do this video series to assist you in learning how to overcome your obstacles. I also want to show you this is something we all have to deal with so I’ll be sharing the different obstacles I’ve had to overcome in my life.

This first Video I discuss how being told I had a learning disability, and as a result, limited career options impacted me. I was told I would never be able to do anything and this made me unsure on how to proceed with my life. Going into High School seemed impossible and continuing through my life I never really thought about the impact it had on me, I didnt initially realize the limits I was putting on myself.

We need to overcome our labels that others place on us, they have nothing to do with who we truly are or what we are ultimately capable of.

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Are you sabotaging you?

Are you sabotaging what you want?

Do you have goals and dreams but find it difficult to get started in them because you are to busy listening to the naysayers? The ones who do not believe in your ideas. When trying to get them to see why its possible, do you allow their doubts, fears, and disbelief’s to get into your head? Do you find yourself seeing an opportunity as a goldmine then change your mind once you talk to someone who doesn’t agree? Do you want to live your life but others remind you of reality? Do you find yourself spending to much time at the beginning trying to get something happening only to be reminded it is a waist of time?

We sometimes get so busy trying to defend what we want and how we are going to get it that we forget to focus on what is really important.

Not everyone will agree with us, not everyone will believe in what “you” believe, do not feel you have to defend what you are doing, do not try to convince others this is the right move, do not try to have them see it your way, there is far to much energy wasted on trying to have others see through your own eyes. Accept them for who and where they are and accept you for who and where you are and leave it at that.

Work on your dreams, spend time creating them and show others it is possible instead of trying to just verbally convince them. Focus your energy on what is important, improving you, growing you, learning you. Spend your energy on the things you have control over, your thoughts, your beliefs, and your feelings.

You have a choice on where you are spending your energy.

Lead by example and teach others it’s possible by what you do, “show them” you can do it. You can do anything so stop trying to convince others and just go do it already!

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I am

Just for today be aware of what words you use after you say “I am”.

“I am” are the most powerful words you ever say, they are telling a story about you so be aware of what comes after. For example; “I am alive” will help you feel more alive, “I am happy” can help keep a smile during the day. “I am” is so powerful, in a sense it’s almost like you are asking it to happen now.

The biggest one I hear and used to say myself is, “I am tired”. Shift this to “I am waiting for my second wind” instead. There are so many that we say daily, subconsciously programming ourselves in the process. So if you dont want it in your life then shift what you say after the deceptively powerful words, “I am”.

If you don’t believe it try it for a day or two for yourself.

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Hay House World Summit 2013

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Stop allowing others to change your beliefs

We can choose our own beliefs….

I live with many people, my husband, my 4 children and my grand baby and sometimes I need to remind myself that I do not have to believe what they believe even if it is a belief I had before, ones I am working on changing and sometimes I have old doubts, fears and so called “reality” come up and pay a visit.

I have learned that I do not need to have these thoughts, I do not need to believe what they believe, I can continue on my own work, I can allow them to believe what they want to, I can let them be who they choose to be, and I can be who I want to be, believe what I want and work towards my goals with out the thought of what they believe.

Our beliefs have nothing to do with anyone else. If you believe you can then go and do it, if you believe you are meant to do something then go ahead and do it, if you believe you are supposed to do a business, write a book, create a project or live in a different area of the world then go ahead and do it.

You have the power inside you to do anything. Stop listening to others and start listening to yourself, you do not have to change for them, you do not have to make them believe like you do, you do not have to believe like they do, you can have an amazing relationship with them just by allowing the differences.

Stop allowing others to control so much of your mind, thoughts, feelings and emotions…..

Believe in YOU!

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Doing something just for fun

Doing something just for fun

Sometimes we get so caught up on all the stuff we have to do in our lives we forget that we can do stuff we want to do just for the fun of it.

Like this morning, Loki and I took a Ferry across to the sunshine coast to meet his daddy and his sissy who were coming back from a camping trip. I thought it would be a awesome shift to do something different and who doesn’t like a ferry ride so we took the first ferry over instead of waiting for then to come to us we went to them and had two awesome ferry rides, meeting up with daddy and sissy, and then coming back over with them.

When you stay to the same old things you will always receive the same old things. Make an effort to mix it up and do something diffrent just for the fun of doing it!

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Our Children are our best teachers

Loki and Joan shared an awesome moment on how Loki see’s his parents…

Our children tell us so much about ourselves..

Be aware of what you want our little ones to learn because they will learn what you show them..

Love the most magical gift you can give, I wasn’t as aware of the impact until right now…

Share love, show love, be love…

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